Certified Life Coach – Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
My name is Sharon Brubaker. I am an Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and Certified Life Coach managing my own venture teaching educational classes about grief. I also host a weekly radio show on KHTS in the Santa Clarita Valley. Wednesday’s at 1:00 pm.
In many of my presentations, I give grieving people and their family and friends a knowledge and understanding about grief as well as examining grief in our society and how it applies to us as individuals. I discuss with clients the idea that there are over 43 know losses that can cause a grieving experience in someone’s life.
Grief is a word that most people are not comfortable with. It is one of the few things that affect every single living person throughout their life. Most of us were never taught how to grieve. Sadly, as a society, we are forced to utilize the abundance of misinformation out there in our attempt to recover.
Here are a few definitions of grief that we, as Grief Recovery Specialists, teach in our program:
Grief is a normal and natural reaction to a significant emotional loss of any kind.
Grief is the conflicting feeling caused by the end of or changing in, a familiar pattern of behavior.
Grief is an individual and unique as you are, yet there are some typical responses people have when dealing with grief such as the following: reduced concentration, a sense of numbness, disrupted sleep patterns, change in eating habits, and a rollercoaster of emotions.
I invite you to look at how those around us have addressed grief. As a society, we’ve been taught in some capacity how to handle someone’s broken leg in front of us – we would call 911 for help and do our best to ensure comfort for the injured person.
Society has also taught us what to do if we get a flat tire – one option is to change the tire yourself or else call someone who can help you. So, who do we turn to for help when an event in our life causes a broken heart producing grief? For the most part, society has taught us some unhelpful myths about grief.
6 grief myths that we discuss in my program are the following:
- Time heals all wounds
- Grieve Alone
- Be Strong
- Don’t feel bad
- Keep Busy
- Replace the loss
These myths can be harmful since they don’t facilitate a sense of completion to the relationship that just ended. It’s possible that these myths to the relationship that just ended. It’s possible that these myths distract us from undertaking the healthy process that is needed to grieve properly.
How can we all support someone during their time of grief? Show up for them. It does not matter if they are your family members, friends, or coworkers. Listen empathetically to them and don’t judge, criticize, or analyze their grief. Listen with your heart and allow their emotions to be expressed without judgment or comment from you, the listener.
I am dedicated to helping people grieve in a healthier manner while navigating their own life’s journey of discovery.
28368 Constellation, Suite 360, Santa Clarita, CA 91355